So here we are to
share some truth. It may be a long one so grab some gin and vermouth. I'll try
to throw in some controversy because I know you have a sweet tooth. Now that I
have your attention I want to talk with you about a serious subject. Our society
protects rapists with a blanket of its own ignorance. You see the dynamics of
sexual assault have changed over the last 30 years or so. The majority of the
public and even some police officers and district attorneys and especially
potential jurors have no idea what a "real rape" even looks like in
the 21st century. Because of this it affects behaviour, arrests, and
convictions. It affects every facet of the legal system. We can't fix a problem
we don't understand. Before I continue I want you to read this:
“Where a vigorous
woman alleges ravishment it is to be expected that signs of violence such as
wounds, bruises and scratches will be present and their absence should induce a
moderate degree of scepticism unless the girl avers that she fainted from fear,
became panic stricken or was otherwise rendered incapable of physical
resistance. The acts and demeanour of the female immediately after the alleged
commission should be subjected to very critical investigation in these cases.”
-Fundamentals of Criminal Investigation 1970
“Generally, the
actions and the appearance of a legitimate rape victim leave little doubt that
a crime has been committed. Under such circumstances, the victim is highly
agitated, emotionally distraught, often in a state of hysteria and may have
sustained injuries, cuts, bruises or wounds. The victim’s clothing is often
ripped or torn off as evidence that it was forcibly removed and if the rape
occurred outdoors, the victim is generally thrown to the ground and her outer
garments stained or soiled. Questions may reasonably be raised concerning the
validity of rape charges in which none or only a few of the above
manifestations exist.”
-International Association for Chiefs of
Police 1995
Notice in 25 years
almost nothing changed if anything at all. Most today will still read those
statements and think that it looks about right. Today this is the common
stereotypical view of rape and sexual assault. Unfortunately in the above
statements there is almost no ounce of truth to any of it. Those two statements
above are completely false and I can prove it. I will take this article and use
statistical fact to absolutely DESTROY the above statements. As I said before
almost nothing in those statements are true in any way, shape, or form. Now for
the proof:
To summarize here is
what we are going to show you:
Most rapes are done
by strangers - False
A weapon is normally
used - False
There's a lot of
physical force and violence - False
Victim reports rape
immediately - False
Victim is hysterical
- False
Victims remember
everything correctly and never fabricate - False
Takes place on bad
side of town or dim area - False
Committed by
minorities - False
That's right almost
none of those things happen the majority of the time. Now that isn't saying
those things don't happen sometimes because they do. What we are saying is
those cases are the minority as compared to all cases. This misconception is so
bad that often even rape crisis centers give out misguided advice like always
walk in well lit areas or take a self defense course. Now those things will
help some but will be useless to most. It won't hurt anything to walk in a well
lit area or take a self defense course. I even teach women's self defense
courses from time to time. It goes back to the old axiom it's better to have it
and not need it than to need it and not have it. I think it's great to take a
great self defense course my point is don't let it give you a false sense of
security or that it is going to fix everything because it definitely won't.
In reality, most sexual
assaults are perpetrated by someone known to the victim, without a weapon,
physical violence, or signs of physical injury. Very few victims report the
sexual assault to the police, but if they do, it is often after a delay of
days, weeks, months, or even years. Many victims have a number of factors that
limit their perceived credibility: they are often young, homeless, runaways, or
transients, have a mental or physical impairment, are belligerent, and/or
abusing alcohol or controlled substances. Victims often omit, exaggerate or
fabricate parts of their account, and they may even recant altogether. They are
not typically hysterical when interviewed by medical professionals, law
enforcement investigators, prosecutors, or others.
So why do people
believe this crap?
Because the sexual
assaults that were reported to law enforcement in the past (e.g., 1970’s)
tended to look a lot more like this stereotype than they do now; because the
media tends to portray sexual assaults that fit the stereotype; because we prefer
to keep the issues simple and not re-examine our assumptions and because we
want to feel safe from threat of sexual assault.
From 1972 to 1976 71%
of all sexual assaults reported to the San Diego Police Department were by strangers.
But from 1992 to 1996 76% of all sexual assaults reported were committed by
someone the victim knew. That number has stayed around 75% give or take a few
points every year since then. Did you know that 32 % of all women who are
sexually assaulted maintain a relationship with the rapist afterwards? It's
true. Did you know that 25% of all women who are raped will have consensual sex
with the rapist at a later time? That's jacked up isn't it? You see the reason
making sure your walking in a well lit area doesn't help most of the time is
because you will know the attacker and let them get close they don't have to
sneak up on you. The numbers in Tucson are a little lower but still comparable
in 1999 the number was 66% and has stayed pretty much the same since then. You
see most of the advice given today about rape prevention is still geared more
towards stranger danger which is very outdated and as the statistics show isn't
very accurate. This is why we need to get the word out. We have to change this
misconception. When studies these things I read about a woman who was raped and
murdered by a co-worker. This happened at the University of Illinois. The
primary response from the college was to install better lighting. This does
absolutely no good at all since this woman was attacked by someone known to
her. Once again it can save some because yes women do still get raped by
strangers but it doesn't address the overall problem.
Even the news media
can be a problem with the misconception not on purpose of course but it
happens. Here is the problem with that. There are so many rapes that take place
in large cities in a given day that they can't report them all in a 30 minute
newscast; so the only ones that tend to make the cut are the particularly
violent ones that fit the stereotype thereby passing the misconception onto the
public without realizing it.
People believe what
they want to believe. They want to believe people they trust aren't capable of
this stuff. They want to believe this only happens to other people or people
that engage in certain behaviors. None of this is true it can happen to anyone
anywhere even in your home by people you trust. The truth is 1 out of every 6
women will be raped in their lifetime. For that matter 1 out of every 33 men
will be raped. Statistics can be higher in certain populations. Now this is
very shocking but here are the actual statistics:
36% of all women in
the US Navy are raped
34% of all Native
American women are raped
27% of all girls in
college are raped
That's pretty jacked
up and some of you are probably saying where is he getting all this info and
how do I know its real numbers. The numbers are real I'll cover the source at
the end of the article. For now let's get back on track.
Let's look at the
next issue. How often is a weapon used in rape cases? How often is physical
violence used?
That can differ a
little based on if it's a stranger or not. Get ready for the bullet points.
Percent of Weapon
Use: Non Stranger 3% Stranger 16%
Choking and
Beating: Non Stranger 7% Stranger 16%
Hitting or Slapping: Non Stranger 13% Stranger 28%
Twisting and
Holding: Non Stranger 68%
Stranger 72%
Threatening: Non Stranger 33%
Stranger 54%
As you can see actual
violence during a rape is very low percentage. The reason I point this out is
because of the 2 statements at the beginning of the article. Just to refresh
your memory I'll post the first one
Where a vigorous
woman alleges ravishment it is to be expected that signs of violence such as
wounds, bruises and scratches will be present and their absence should induce a
moderate degree of scepticism unless the girl avers that she fainted from fear,
became panic stricken or was otherwise rendered incapable of physical
resistance. The acts and demeanor of the female immediately after the alleged
commission should be subjected to very critical investigation in these cases.
The second one is
even worse scroll up and read that one. So you see most of the time weapons
aren't used. Choking, beating, hitting, and slapping is in the minority as
well. Threatening doesn't leave marks. Twisting and holding may or may not
leave a bruise. The 2 statements law enforcement uses to judge rape are false.
Society also shares this same view and we've shown you several reasons why. Do
beatings happen? Of course they do. Are weapons used? Yeah sometimes they are
used. Our point is the absence of these things shouldn't cause scepticism when
a woman says she's raped because that absence is actually the norm. Our view of
rape needs to change in this society. For God sakes at Fort Collins Police
Department in Colorado in 1998 100% of all rapes reported when the attacker was
known to the victim a weapon was NEVER used. That's right for an entire
calendar in reported cases it didn't happen. That is very important info. So
why don't these women fight back? Well here are some reasons
:
The rape is committed
by someone the victim knows (rather than a stranger)
The perpetrator does
not use physical force or violence to commit the rape
The victim is
concerned about preserving the relationship with the offender
The victim is
concerned about the offender’s judgment/opinions
The victim has been
sexually assaulted in the past
How do they resist
when they do resist?
11.2% Run
11.2% Scream
45.7% Cry
69.6% Struggle
76.6% Turn Cold
83.3% Reason and
Plead
You see the picture
start to take shape and only 1 of those could possibly leave signs of injury
thereby ripping the original statements apart which is the point of the
article. I also want to add that 1/3 to 2/3 of all rape involve alcohol or some
other drug. There is a huge double standard with that in our society. When guys
drink society expects them to be out of control but if women do it they are
considered slutty. That just ain't right. Our entire culture is geared the
wrong way. When it comes to sex men are seen as the aggressors and the women
the gatekeepers. These men believe women are supposed to say no at first but
not because they mean it. They just say it because it's expected and they are
supposed to push to "see how far they can get."
They get to see it as
a game of cat and mouse. This is also seriously messed up. This doesn't mean
all men are rapists of course but it gives way to a culture that perceives
aggressive men as normal which compounds the problem.
Do victims usually
report the rape immediately?
Since we talked about
sources earlier the 2 main sources for this article were the National Violence Against
Women Survey and the National Women's Survey. Within a few points they all
converge on these statistics and this next one is no different. Only 16 to 19%
of women who are raped reported it at all. Out of that percentage less that 25%
of that number reported it immediately. That means less than 5% of all women
who are raped report it immediately. Remember that number because I'm building
to something. There is also a misconception that the rapist will be a minority
and I want you to know that most rapes are intra-racial. That means they rape
within their own ethnic groups. If you’re a white girl you’re more likely to be
raped by a white guy just so you know. Getting back to why women don't report
rape let's look at it:
22% cited fear of the
perpetrator as the reason for not reporting
18% stated that they
were too ashamed or embarrassed
18% felt that the
incident was minor, and not a crime or a police matter
13% believed that the
law enforcement agency could not do anything
12% were concerned
that officers would not believe or blame them
That really sucks
because the fact is that men who rape and get away with it are more likely to
do it again. Dr. Davis Lisak and Dr. Paul Miller surveyed 1,882 men with an
average age of 28 who attended college part time (the college wasn't named). Of
these 1,882 men 120 of them had committed 483 sexual assaults of women they
knew. None of those assaults were ever reported.
There is a real
disconnect between what society believes is "legitimate" rape and the
truth. If the policy we showed you at the very beginning of the article
continues to be believed then many more women will be raped and many more
rapists will continue raping with impunity. When crap like that is believed
then rape victims do not get believed when they come forward and arrests are
not made and rapes continue when they could have been stopped. That untrue
statement is very damaging in many ways. I want to give you a scenario.
A woman has been
raped by a neighbor she's friends with and has known awhile. Police come to the
scene and interview her and they follow through and arrest the neighbor. Then
they start to collect evidence.
They collect
fingerprints, hair samples, fiber samples, semen, saliva, footprints, maybe
tire marks and other things of the like. They can absolutely prove he was there
and that a sexual act took place and they go to trial with it. So what happens?
Well it's an easy not guilty verdict and the victim gets victimized again. The
rapist walks free. Why?
Well you see since
it's a given they knew each other already the identification of the suspect
should not have been the primary issue. You see a good defense attorney will
use the consent defense. It will be her word against his and she doesn't have
any bruises, cuts or marks on her body, no clothes torn. She probably didn't call
the police right after either. Remember those misconceptions that are
prevalent? They will be prevalent in a jury too. So let's back up and try that
again.
A woman has been
raped by a neighbor she's friends with and has known awhile. Police come to the
scene and interview her and they follow through and arrest the neighbor. Then
they start to collect evidence.
They collect all the
identification evidence mentioned in the previous scenario but this time they
also:
Photographs of any
genital and non genital injuries
Documented complaints
of pain
Evidence of prior
similar acts
Suspect statements
made in a monitored phone call to victim
Any crime scene
evidence that could support a struggle
Records of
communication with dispatch
Interview with first
person victim told of assault
Detailed information from the victim,
describing thoughts and feelings during the sexual assault, as well as any
sensory and peripheral details that can be recalled
Detailed information
from others, to describe the victim’s behavior after the sexual assault, and
contrast it with the victim’s typical behavior before the sexual assault
Any number of these
can help beat a consent defense. On top of that a prosecutor having statistics
like these to change jury perception of what is normal and what is abnormal
their case will be stronger.
In closing this
ignorance helps rapists and hopefully we've helped in some small way to help
you understand just how much damage has been done to our society and even our
justice system due to lack of understanding of the real issues. If you found
this article informative I can tell you that it's just the tip of the iceberg.
This info came from a course I took called What Does Rape Really Look Like that
is offered by End The Violence Against Women International. There is much more
info there than I can put in this article. You can look into those online
courses at www.evawintl.org. We've got to work together to change this
perception and make real help available. Thank you
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